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Imagine fully being yourself, like when you are at home, to the social world. Allowing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to remain aligned is more difficult than stated. We all have been socialized; we have learned and adjusted our behaviors to fit societies’ expectations. While this is helpful in the obvious sense of demonstrating appropriate manners and law-abiding behaviors, it sometimes permeates into distorted expectations of the self and - a defeated sense of self. If, for example, you were taught to feel unworthy if you did not get A's on all your tests, and you were not really that great at school, then situations such as tests were very threatening. When you expected a threatening situation, you felt anxiety. You may have avoided school (or acted as if you didn’t care) to avoid failure, with the actual underlying reason being that you did not want to face the possibility of being rejected by your parents.
At work, you may feel intense stress after, for example, an email from your boss. You think your boss will likely want to talk about your inferior performance. You worry and worry, and think of all the evidence to support how you are in fact a hard worker. That worry and stress comes from the way you’ve learned to cope over the years when faced with scrutiny from superiors (e.g., teachers, parents). In your lifetime, you have developed the strategy of searching for and accumulating facts to aid in your defense as a means of overcoming criticisms from your boss or teacher or parent. Somewhere within you, you believe that you are not as worthy and therefore have come to rely on the exercise of being your own defense attorney. Exhausting, right? Well, there is a better and more accurate way of handling your self-doubts and worries.
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